When you are dealing with the overwhelming emotions of surviving a breakup the best thing you can do is to seek out someone you know who has recently been through a breakup and seems to have made it through. I am sure you have friends that have been through what it is you are now going through. Ask them how they survived their breakup, and if they have any tips or advice they can give you. Just knowing that their are other people who have made it through can be a big help.
But let me also give you a few tips on surviving a breakup and how to make it through. First of all I would like to point out that there will be a lot of emotions that you will feel and will need to go through. The first can be denial. Not really believing that your relationship is over. You will also feel anger, fear, and self doubt. The biggest one that I have found is a very deep sadness. This is a sadness that goes to the heart, and people feel this sadness because the dream that they had of a long term happy relationship has ended, and there is no hope of getting it back. It's very difficult to realize that this sadness will eventually go away. But if you follow a few tips it will.
First you need to allow yourself to just feel whatever it is your feeling. If you feel like crying, cry. If you feel like screaming, scream. If you feel like being angry, be angry. Just try to release these emotions either when you are by yourself or with someone who understands and won't take anything personal. A shoulder to cry on is always nice.
You also need to stay completely away from your ex while you are going through the first stages of a breakup. That also means no texts or email. Staying in contact will only make the recovery take longer. So break off all ties.
When you feel you have reached a place within yourself where you are a little bit calmer, then a ritual that works great is what I suggest you do next. Take all the pictures and letters of your ex that you have and burn them. Invite a close friend over and make it a celebration of sorts. This is very significant, it has a way of making your breakup real, and it works, so give it a try. The next thing you will need to do it to return anything you have of your ex'es to them, and retreve anything they may have of yours. This will also makes it final in your mind.
Now it's time to move on. If you need more help on surviving a breakup then please read this article, it will give you some more help on surviving a breakup. And yes, you will make it through.
I wish you all the best.
