What Makes Men Fall In Love

After researching this subject "What Makes Men Fall In Love" I have come to the conclusion that men are just as complicated as women. And that most of the things that we do to attract someone of the opposite sex is just natural.

If I had to sit down and plan how I was going to act to attract a man then I would probably give up. I mean, if it's something that you need to "act" to do, then eventually the act will disappear and he will be left with the natural you. Fortunately for us "what makes men fall in love" will come natural, especially when you run across a man that triggers your pheromones ( in Greek known as the "excitement carrier") and hopefully you will trigger his.

But there are some interesting data I found on this topic on "What Makes Men Fall In Love?" that I know you will find interesting. So keep on reading, I think you will be surprised to realize that a lot of these things are things that you do naturally.

First of all I discovered that men get butterflies in their stomach too! I would have never guessed! And that they really do desire to find someone to fall in love with. That it's not just all about sex. They have that nesting urge in them as much as women do, to just find that one mate to make a home with and to have children with.

So what attributes do women have that makes a man fall in love? From what I have discovered, men have four basic needs, and if he finds these qualities in you then his desire to be with you increase. I have included them below.

The Need To Protect.

Yes, men are wired to nurture. Nurturing and sheltering you from harm makes him feel like a Man. So, letting him see your vulnerable side will bring him closer to you, it will bring out that instinct to take care of you. So let him take charge on occasion, and be sure to thank him when he does. Here is a list of things that will bring out his superman, and make him feel good.

1. Give him a job to do or ask him for help with something, create opportunities for him to feel needed. And whatever you do don't control the situation, just sit back and let him be the superman.

2. Ask his opinion on so meting and listen. It makes him feel like you value his opinion and his brain.

3. Dress feminine. OK, you don't have to do this all the time, but on occasional it won't hurt. If you like to wear jeans then make sure your underclothing is sexy. Men love soft sexy clothes, they accentuate your feminine nature which ignites his amorous nature. But also on occasion wear his clothes, his shirt at night over you naked body is a real turn-on. His jacket when you get cold. These make him feel like you have chosen him over other guys.

The Need For Freedom

Men need to know that their male identity will still be there when they become attached to a woman. So, it's important that you let him know that you don't expect him to change, that you are not out to fix him. He needs to feel that you understand him and that his identity is safe. Here is a list of other things you can show him to make him feel safe.

1. Turn him down on occasion. It will make him feel more at ease knowing that your life isn't tied around him, that you have your own identity. It will also make him curious, and therefore pursue you more.

2. Share your own fears about commitment, it will make him feel more at ease and that your not out to get him. It will also open up some communication about how you both feel.

3. Change your appearance when you feel like it. Don't ask for his permission or approval. If you want to color your hair or wear a different shade of lipstick, then go for it. This lets him know that there is more then one side to you, which can be exciting.

4. Respect his space. Don't bug him about where he has been or what he does all day. Don't just show up at his door, rummage through his drawers or always checking his cell phone. Allow him his own space. His space is a symbol of independence, so respect it.

5. Appreciate him. Make sure to let him know that you notice the small things he does.

The Need To Shine

Yes, men can be just as insecure as women, even if they don't act it. And they need to know you respect and appreciate them, but they if you can make them feel better about who they are, well that's just a big plus, especially around others. So here are some tips to help you do that
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1. Make him laugh. Tease him about the little stupid things he does, or during the little ha ha moments, like when he falls out of bed during sex. Just try to keep things light and he will treasure you.

2. Be social and drag him along. Most men don't have a lot of social graces, so take the lead and be the social butterfly. He will appreciate you for it, in fact, he might take credit for it.

3. Be intellectual with him, take politics, play scrabble, chess. Men love the mental stimulation, and from his lady is twice as good.

4. Act like the grand prize when you are out with him, it will make him feel very manly.

The Need To Feel Comfort

Did you know there is a chemical (oxytocin) that floods the brain that helps develop attachment, or falling in love? And you know what else, you can help to release these chemicals by making him feel like the two of you fit together, that you are comfortable together. So here are some tips that will make him feel comfortable.

1. Let him see you bath, shower, or groom yourself. This will enhance intimacy, something that nobody else has privy to, just him. Make sure you don't do any of the gross stuff, like bleaching your mustache.

2. Cook together. We all know that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, but food also spikes the oxytocin levels in him, these chemicals creates good feelings, which he will associate with you.

3. When grocery shopping, buy a few things that he likes, this will make him feel more at home when he comes over.

4. Take little cat naps next to him, or doze off in his arms, he will see you at your most vulnerable and trusting, and make him feel more protective of you.

So, that is what my research has taught me on "What Makes Men Fall in Love?" Basically it all comes down to chemicals and you being a woman and him being a man. But it doesn't hurt to know what makes us tick. Lord knows I could use all the help I can get on trying to figure out what makes men fall in love.

7 Steps On How To Make Up After A Fight

Here are 7 steps I found to be very effective in helping to learn how to make up after a fight. I also found that once we practiced these steps a few times our arguments became fewer, and our understanding of each other better. Give them a
try.

1.   DON'T RUN AWAY FROM THE ARGUMENT.  The first thing you shouldn't do is run away from a fight and not talk about it. This is the worst thing to do. This will only prolong the issues you are having, and any negative feelings you and your mate may be holding on to. If the argument gets too overheated, take a break, go for a walk.  Keep your cool down time to around 20 minutes, that gives you time to calm down and gather your thoughts before discussing the issue at hand.

2.   TRY TO SEND MESSAGES OF LOVE - I know that the last thing on anyone's mind when you are having a disagreement with your partner is to let them know you love them, but that is a very important part of how to make up after a fight. Try to send some kink of signal or message to you partner that even though you are not getting along right now, you still do love and adore them.

3.   DISCUSS THE ISSUES - As soon as tempers have calmed down it is very important to discuss the issues that caused the argument in the first place.  You both need to try and see it from both sides, and to use a little empathy and understanding. Anger has a way of distorting things and making them seem larger then thy are, so being calm will put the issues more in perspective.

4.   COMMUNICATION -  Most arguments happen because the communication between two people might need some help.  Are you listening effectively, are you acknowledging your partner when they share with you how they are feeling about something. The biggest fight can start over the smallest comment.  So try to be aware of how the both of you are communicating with each other.  Accept that you are partly responsible for the fight occurring (remember, it takes two to tango) and discuss ways in which you can fix the issue that is causing the fight.

5.   COMPROMISE - Compromising can be a difficult thing to do, but in relationships it very important to learn how to compromise on any issues you may be having. This will help you to get over any conflict. in fact when you learn how to compromise effectively it will eliminate a lot of the arguments that you would normally have. Compromising on issues does not mean that they are right and you are wrong, it is just allowing them to have their way on a particular subject and in return you will have your way on a different subject-compromise.

6.   LISTENING - I feel this is a very important one.  When a person feels like they aren't being heard, they can feel hurt, not important or valued by their partner.  That can lead to being angry. So while you are discussing the issues that created a fight to begin with, try to listen to your partner.  If either one of you find this difficult to do, getting defensive and interrupting, then make it a rule to allow each partner 5 minutes to express their feeling without being interrupted. while one is talking the other one is listening, not with your ears but with your heart. Take turns doing this until you feel you understand where your partner is coming from.

7.   APOLOGIZE - Apologizing - After you have discussed the issues and have come to some kind of a compromise or understanding, then you need to apologize.  Don't apologize until you have worked out the problem, which will allow you to communicate your feelings better without being distracted.  But apologizing is on of the big steps in how to make up after a fight.  That and a big hug.

Learning to avoid arguments will eliminate the need to make up after a fight (although that can be fun). You can learn all the steps to avoiding arguments with your partner  Looking for ways to rekindle the relationship with your ex girlfriend?  Yes, we know that breakups happen, in fact they happen all the time.  Unfortunatelly, most people just accept the fact that it's over, when deep down inside they wish that it wasn't.  If they knew that there were things they could do to get their ex girlfriend back, they probably wouldn't give up so easily.  So you are one of the few who aren't willing to just quit.  Good for you!  Below you will find 5 steps you can take to get your ex girlfriend back.

1.   It's very important to still maintain some kind of connection with your ex girlfriend if you want to get her back. So regardless of why you broke up (right now any way) try to make some kind of connection with her.  It could be an email or a text asking how she is, and just basically letting her know that your still around and care.  Now don't go crazy and be a pest, just an occasional email or text will do for now.

2.   Once you have taken the first steps in contacting her, and if she responds, well then you can take the next step. On step 2 your just going to text her or email her a little more often.  Maybe even a phone call if she is willing.  Don't talk about why you two split up, or about any problems.  Just a "Hi, hoW are you doing?" should be enough to get some conversation going.  Try to keep it light, a sense of humor is always good, and letting her know what you have been up to.Once again, don't phone her all the time, just every now and then.  But always leave the option open for her to call you if she needs anything, or to just talk.

3.   Now that the silence has been broken and you are back on talking terms with her, it might be a good time to invite her out with some friends.  Let her know that it isn't a date, just that you do miss her and it would be good to see her. If she isn't ready yet let her know that that's okay, that you understand.  But keep the communication going.  Once she doesn't feel threatened, (her emotions getting stomped on) she will probably love to see you.

4.   During this time of courtship (yes, that's what it is)  Do Not, I repeat,  Do Not go out with other women.  If you really want to get your ex girlfriend back then this is very important.  You can go out with the guys, and do what you would normally do, just no other women.                                                                  
                                                                   
5.   When you do get the opportunity to go somewhere with her, Treat Her Like A Princess!  Treat her like she is beautiful and you adore her.  Show her respect but also show her a good time.  Don't put expectations on her, and don't expect her to go home with you.  Remember, you are trying to get you ex girlfriend back and that can take time.  But if you truly love her, it will be time well spent.

Now that you are back on talking terms and seeing each other, flirt with her a little. Let her know that you are still interested in her.  I wish you the best.